Friday, December 31, 2021
2021…
Sunday, September 26, 2021
The Retreat
Saturday, January 2, 2021
2020…
Friday, September 25, 2020
On A Year...
*Lessons I Unfortunately Had To Learn In A Year*
The lessons you have to learn in the first year of grieving are really tough, something you can’t put into words… (and the fact that you go through this for the rest of your life is even harder)
-The first and I would say the biggest lesson I have learned is: Time is weird. I say this one because for months after the tragedy struck, I kept referring to it as “this week” or as a bit of time went on I would say “last week,” when it clearly wasn’t anymore. This messed with my entire way of thinking about time, and sadly how much time has passed without him here. I have had to stop saying “About a year ago…” when I am speaking about something we did together. I am trying to remind myself that those experiences we shared weren’t from about a year ago and that it was from about a year before he died.
Time has also been one of the only things that has helped me with this whole grieving process. I am thankful to have had the opportunity to take some time to breathe and grieve and regain my balance in this life. I have spent a whole lot of nights in my bed, watching Hallmark movies and eating vanilla ice cream. I also hibernated during quarantine since my busy schedule got thrown out the window so I had ample time to be by myself. The stay at home order feels different when you are grieving, like there is nothing else you need to do- yet, process and come to peace with it. It also has helped a bit to separate myself, for the most part, from a lot of the places we share memories at. I am thankful I was able to take a step back from the hustle and bustle of everyday life.
Little by little, I have been trying to get my life back on track, even if it’s just a wheel or two.
-One of the most recent things I have learned in this past year is to just look at the few steps ahead of you. You don’t always have to look at the big picture, focus on what’s right in front of you. For a while, you just have to get through the day. Then, get through the next. Then, the next and so on. At some point after, you are figuring out how to keep going.
This is something I never wanted to go through, which I’m sure you understand. No one chooses this...
-But, I have learned that I… that people… that my friend group… We can do hard and scary things. You know why? Because we have done them before. We have a God that is 100% behind us in our worst days and 100% behind us on our best days. I hope you can hear, in your own mind, how exaggerated I want this to sound. 100% people! His love never changes, He loves us exactly how we are. My friends and I have gotten through some of the darkest, darkest days together. We might not always have the answers or reasons behind it all. But, we have come out stronger and with a better appreciation for each other because of it. Joy and Grief can go hand and hand and that’s just how life works. I've learned that moving forward doesn't mean forgetting. That darkness doesn't last forever. That life is a combination of grief and joy and that regardless of which cycle I'm in, goodness can be found. One minute we can be crying and one minute we can be laughing. It’s how life happens and it’s how it’s going to continue to happen from here on out.
We have learned that the storms never ever stop… But neither do the rainbows.
-I have also learned how to take care of and be strong for myself and for everyone else in the midst of our turmoil. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Years feel like seconds when you look back. I am so proud to know people who lift me up before themselves and who have turned me closer to Jesus in the roughest spot I have been in. I am happy to have a support system who helps me in all aspects of this journey.
Losing him broke me, but in so many ways, his short existence in my life still managed to gift me with so many things I will never forget. It taught me how to love others in such a unique way, how to put Jesus first, how to find adventure in the tiniest of situations… and the list goes on and on. Even though this past year has looked nothing, nothing like we thought it might- I’m choosing to thank the Lord for the time I did get to spend with him.
He was truly my best friend who God is still using to work wonders in my life.
Thursday, May 28, 2020
What The Retreat Has Taught Me So Far…
Tuesday, April 28, 2020
God Is Already There
I am currently finishing my school year, virtually, lost both of my jobs due to the virus and grieving from a friend passing away. The words: healing, grieving, world pandemic, online school and anger have all been at the top of my vocabulary during this uncertain season of my life. To say nothing makes sense right now, is 100% true. I know I am not alone and many other people in our society have been feeling the same way. Even if I don’t acknowledge it,
I know this season I am in has been hard on my heart.
Anyways since I’ve been in the storm for just over 7 months… I have been leaning towards God more than ever.
I am learning to praise Him in the darkness.
Yesterday, two of my friends (who don’t know each other) sent me the same quote that my best friend that
passed away 7 months ago, said to me a few years ago. “Don’t Worry About Tomorrow, For God Is Already There.”
This quote means more to me than what it actually says. First of all I love the quote obviously, but
I have a strong tie to it since he said it to me a couple years ago.
So… Just two nights ago we were watching a TV show that mentioned Jeremiah 29:11 and I said what the
verse says to my family, "’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper
you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’" and said it reminds me of the
quote he texted me once, "Don't Worry About Tomorrow For God is Already There!"
Their timing was awesome, it was something I totally needed. I have been missing my normal life and my
friends so much. I’ve been extremely sad and angry about it. What are the odds they would both choose
that quote to send to me on the same day… cue the tears. It made me feel connected to Heaven in a way!
Seeing God in the normal, everyday things is what I have been learning lately. I think He wants us to
know He is in everything, even a quick text message when you haven’t seen your people going on two months.
I know He is totally preparing me for what’s next for me through them and I’m so blessed!!
P.S. I am praying for all of you and hope you are staying healthy:)